A relationship must have fight,trust,pain,tears,jealousy,secret and argument.
Do you argue with your partner? I do. If you don't then you are missing on something,frankly speaking the relationship is not yet complete. There are types of argument that comes up in a relationship that made me wonder if every relationship has same issues. Perhaps the disagreement don't make it even to the discussion stage-but disagreement remain. Below are my guess on this issues
1. Blame : the number one thing that causes arguement in a relationship is that most of us always look for someone to blame when things go wrong . Introvers blame themselves. Extrovers end up together.
2. Money : it's literally say that money is the root of all evil and in a relationship it can't be less, the question is who earn most? If you earn two times what your partner does ,should you split it with them? Comment your answers below.
3. Relatives : Maybe you like her sister little much or your mum and dad thinks she is not perfect for you . The gap between your perceptions of your family and your spouse is usually considerable. The way your pertner relate will have provided you with a template, consciously or unconsciously but the truth is no getting away from relative, you just need to accept them the way they are.
4. Base on past : Everybody always uses their past to guide them in other to place themselves in the best light. So when it come down to trying to work out what went wrong when you had a disagreement it becomes very hard, imagknation to supplement memory and this is the foundation of conflict.
5. Cleanliness : A relationship is all about people coming from a different background to live and agree together. To one the other will always be a slob to the other will be a control freak. Accepting these differences and that there are limits to the amount that the other is capable of changing.
6. Sex : This is one of the most likely to be unexpressed, as bringing up the subject can make both parties self-concious . However, the difference can be , either one partner wants more or one partner wants less or in worst case - Both.
7. Gift : Forgetting to buy a present for your partner when she needed it most is also another cause of argument ,this is the gap between reality and hope, naturally gift is a way you celebrate someone, showing them you appreciate them for being part of your life and this is mostly done during birthdays, christmass e.t.c
A relationship must have fight,trust,pain,tears,jealousy,secret and argument.
Do you argue with your partner? I do. If you don't then you are missing on something,frankly speaking the relationship is not yet complete. There are types of argument that comes up in a relationship that made me wonder if every relationship has same issues. Perhaps the disagreement don't make it even to the discussion stage-but disagreement remain. Below are my guess on this issues
1. Blame : the number one thing that causes arguement in a relationship is that most of us always look for someone to blame when things go wrong . Introvers blame themselves. Extrovers end up together.
2. Money : it's literally say that money is the root of all evil and in a relationship it can't be less, the question is who earn most? If you earn two times what your partner does ,should you split it with them? Comment your answers below.
3. Relatives : Maybe you like her sister little much or your mum and dad thinks she is not perfect for you . The gap between your perceptions of your family and your spouse is usually considerable. The way your pertner relate will have provided you with a template, consciously or unconsciously but the truth is no getting away from relative, you just need to accept them the way they are.
4. Base on past : Everybody always uses their past to guide them in other to place themselves in the best light. So when it come down to trying to work out what went wrong when you had a disagreement it becomes very hard, imagknation to supplement memory and this is the foundation of conflict.
5. Cleanliness : A relationship is all about people coming from a different background to live and agree together. To one the other will always be a slob to the other will be a control freak. Accepting these differences and that there are limits to the amount that the other is capable of changing.
6. Sex : This is one of the most likely to be unexpressed, as bringing up the subject can make both parties self-concious . However, the difference can be , either one partner wants more or one partner wants less or in worst case - Both.
7. Gift : Forgetting to buy a present for your partner when she needed it most is also another cause of argument ,this is the gap between reality and hope, naturally gift is a way you celebrate someone, showing them you appreciate them for being part of your life and this is mostly done during birthdays, christmass e.t.c
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